Lovers spurned: Several European women duped in state

Lovers spurned: Several European women duped in state
Preetu Nair | TNN

Panaji: The case of British national Patrina Churm (55) being duped by her lover may not be an isolated one. Women activists say that while Churm may have managed to send the man to jail, many other foreign nationals concede the fight after an initial complaint.
“Incidents of European women who share a live-in relationship with young Indian men complaining about being financially duped and violence in the relationship is common. But the problem is that soon after we initiate action they either request us not to pursue the matter or just disappear, forcing us to close the case,” said chairperson of the Goa state commission for women Dr Pramod Salgaonkar.
Take the case of fifty-nineyear-old Dutch national Eva Thurston (name changed), who met a 35-year-old Kashmiri man in February 2004 in Goa. Eva refused to reveal her boyfriend’s name and said, “I am trying to sort out things with him amicably and naming him may spoil things”.
Duped by her lover, Eva had lodged a complaint with the Calangute police in March 2008. The Calangute police confirmed receipt of the complaint. “We did receive a complaint and called both parties to the police station to sort out things. But after some time the woman left the country,” Calangute police said.
Eva’s story is no different from that of Churm and many others like her. She was holidaying in Goa in 2002, when she met her ‘soul mate’. A friendship developed and Eva financed a shop in North Goa, the purchase of a house, a vehicle and even opened a joint bank account. But in a span of four years, as her financial status went downhill, the relation strained. “One day, I was thrown out of the house, denied my share in the business and house and rendered penniless,” said Eva. But after an initial complaint she has resigned herself to her fate and is trying to settle the matter amicably.
“A majority of the European women in a similar situation put up a brave front initially but back out later as they have no protection nor any back-up support in Goa. On the other hand, the man, being an Indian national, has connections and family,” said advocate Caroline Collaco.
Police officials admit that live-in relationships between elderly European women and younger Indian men is a common feature in the coastal belt. “While Goan or lamani boys get friendly with a European woman intending to travel abroad, we commonly come across cases where woman allege that Kashmiri men have duped them off their money after faking love. But there are no documents to prove these allegations,” the officer added.
“Most of the time there is no marriage certificate,” said advocate Vikram Varma.
Activists said that not only are women robbed financially, but there are even instances of Kashmiri men keeping their marital status under wraps and marrying elderly European women either in ashrams or mangal karyalayas.
In one such case, 40-yearold Angela Kanska married a 27-year-old from Rainawar, Srinagar, who runs handicrafts shops in Candolim and at Osho ashram in Pune.
Initially, everything looked perfect, till he learnt that she was pregnant. “He told me that he was already married with a wife in Kashmir and my whole world collapsed,” said Angela.
June 30, 2008, The Times of India, Goa edition